Lately I feel.... Older. I finally feel like a young adult. At the same time, I feel like I've only just started growing. I've learned that I was asking the unimportant questions before. Now I have to find the important ones.
I'm going out on a rather uncomfortable limb here. Anyone who knows me knows exactly who I'm talking about and that can be scary. Maybe this is my way of telling her how I feel, without being too... Idk. personal? More personal sounds better for this type of thing. But I was always the one to hide behind words. She reads my blog, she'll read this. But before you get all excited and decide who it is, just ask my family. SHE isn't narrowing things down when it comes to my friends. 70% of them are girls. I don't really trust guys much. And girls get along well with me. People think I'm a player, which annoys me, because players are excellent examples of why not to like the average guy. I guess, in the end, I want to tell her EXACTLY how i feel, without her pushing me away, hence the cryptic blog post. Possibly the scariest thing about this is never knowing if the message reached its target. Who would reply, in fear of being wrong? I hope she knows its her I'm talking about. And if she does, I hope she can understand. So here you go, I'm saying to the world what I couldn't say in person:
If I'm going to be totally honest with myself, I don't think I've ever been in love. I don't think half the people who say they are have been. Not REALLY. I liked a girl, yes. Later I found that half my feelings for her were pity. I wanted to help. She needed love, and I gave it. I thought. But I didn't realize i gave pity rather than love. And then there was another more recent one, who charmed me off my feet. But if I'm completely honest.... Do I love her? We flirt and yet I cant really see us as a couple. Certainly not marriage. and that's my end goal in dating someone, right? Maybe I just am not far enough along in my life to see that far yet. Maybe I'm just not ready, but will be someday. My parents were best friends from preschool, and basicly had a crush on each other all their lives. I GUARANTEE you that they didn't think of marriage for a LONG while during that time. What do I want from this? Its a Flirtationship. no more. But what am I achieving? Is she more serious then me? If so, I have no right to lead her on and she should know. Do I like her more than she likes me? If so then I'm the loser here. But not really. After all, I'm not serious either. Its just a fun, high risk, fast paced game. Maybe this is the only way to grow up. But no matter how I put it, I DO love her. She's probably one of my top three favorite people (I'm not going to choose between them. There ALL my best friends). I certainly don't want her hurt, and she always makes me smile, and I'm very protective of her. But all of that can be applied to your best friend or the "fun" sister. How are you supposed to tell when its more than that? Yeah, I think of her a lot. Doesn't everyone think of their favorite people a lot? Yeah, I blush when people tease me about her. My sister blushes when I tease her about people I KNOW she doesn't like. How is a guy who's possibly never been in love supposed to know when he finally is? Why does no one seem to know the answers? Will I ever know? or is this something adults struggle with too?
I'm going out on a rather uncomfortable limb here. Anyone who knows me knows exactly who I'm talking about and that can be scary. Maybe this is my way of telling her how I feel, without being too... Idk. personal? More personal sounds better for this type of thing. But I was always the one to hide behind words. She reads my blog, she'll read this. But before you get all excited and decide who it is, just ask my family. SHE isn't narrowing things down when it comes to my friends. 70% of them are girls. I don't really trust guys much. And girls get along well with me. People think I'm a player, which annoys me, because players are excellent examples of why not to like the average guy. I guess, in the end, I want to tell her EXACTLY how i feel, without her pushing me away, hence the cryptic blog post. Possibly the scariest thing about this is never knowing if the message reached its target. Who would reply, in fear of being wrong? I hope she knows its her I'm talking about. And if she does, I hope she can understand. So here you go, I'm saying to the world what I couldn't say in person:
If I'm going to be totally honest with myself, I don't think I've ever been in love. I don't think half the people who say they are have been. Not REALLY. I liked a girl, yes. Later I found that half my feelings for her were pity. I wanted to help. She needed love, and I gave it. I thought. But I didn't realize i gave pity rather than love. And then there was another more recent one, who charmed me off my feet. But if I'm completely honest.... Do I love her? We flirt and yet I cant really see us as a couple. Certainly not marriage. and that's my end goal in dating someone, right? Maybe I just am not far enough along in my life to see that far yet. Maybe I'm just not ready, but will be someday. My parents were best friends from preschool, and basicly had a crush on each other all their lives. I GUARANTEE you that they didn't think of marriage for a LONG while during that time. What do I want from this? Its a Flirtationship. no more. But what am I achieving? Is she more serious then me? If so, I have no right to lead her on and she should know. Do I like her more than she likes me? If so then I'm the loser here. But not really. After all, I'm not serious either. Its just a fun, high risk, fast paced game. Maybe this is the only way to grow up. But no matter how I put it, I DO love her. She's probably one of my top three favorite people (I'm not going to choose between them. There ALL my best friends). I certainly don't want her hurt, and she always makes me smile, and I'm very protective of her. But all of that can be applied to your best friend or the "fun" sister. How are you supposed to tell when its more than that? Yeah, I think of her a lot. Doesn't everyone think of their favorite people a lot? Yeah, I blush when people tease me about her. My sister blushes when I tease her about people I KNOW she doesn't like. How is a guy who's possibly never been in love supposed to know when he finally is? Why does no one seem to know the answers? Will I ever know? or is this something adults struggle with too?
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